Have you ever used a dating site? Do you have friends that do?  Dating sites have grown significantly over the years and it’s interesting because some people love them and find their honey boo in no time, while others tend to dread the process and end up navigating the online dating world for years.

It’s interesting to note that online dating success, just like any other success we have in life, oftentimes boils down to how authentic we are.  Authentic as defined and unapologetically you.  You being you and true to yourself no matter what others think and feeling happy and confident at the same time.

When it comes to dating, many people create a profile that isn’t really true to who they are. Maybe they don’t really like themselves or they’ve just had bad luck being themselves before and think that a change is in order. Or perhaps they really have no idea who they really are; they’ve worn a mask forever.  Take note that most who find relationships rather quickly tend to be honest about themselves and have some degree of insight as to who they are. They are unashamedly themselves and want someone else who is authentic as well.

Is intuition necessary to spot authenticity in others?

Believe it or not, it’s not that difficult to spot authenticity in others.  Even if you feel like you are not intuitive, usually we can sense how “real” someone is being with us. It’s usually just you becoming attentive to things like their body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, attention span, and so on. While we can hone in on their authenticity level, oftentimes they can hone in on ours too.

Becoming more authentic

Becoming unashamedly ourselves is a worthy goal. We want to feel free to be ourselves despite quirks, defects, our past, personality, shape, sexuality, and so on. It’s easier to do when we are in the company of those who unconditionally love us, but what about those who don’t or we’re not sure? Do we put a mask on? Try to fit in on their terms? Oftentimes we do, but it just feels yuck, doesn’t it? Don’t you just want to take your mask and shatter it into a thousand pieces and dance around in your freedom to be….YOU?

Yes, me too!

Therefore, make a commitment to yourself to move forward with no shame in who you are right now on this journey no matter what your past has been, your job situation, your marital status, money situation, inner struggles, and so on. It just feels good to own your power and authenticity regardless of what others might think. Actually, the world needs a massive awakening to authentic people feeling free to be themselves, because when we feel free, we are so open to authentic love and compassion. I think we can all agree that humanity could use some more love and compassion.

A modern-day mantra is “keep it real”.  I like this mantra because it defines authenticity. Be real. Be raw. Feel worthy. Honor your journey.  Know that you are accepted and loved just as you are!

You’re most beautiful when you are authentically you, so go for it.

Be unashamedly, radiant, awe-mazing, beautiful you!